It’s not necessarily that pickup lines for bumble don’t work. They just don’t work when they’re used incorrectly. Or intentionally—the best way to use an actual “pickup line” is to be ironic about it. Point out that you’re being cheesy and she’ll appreciate the fun you’re having. Of course, all girls are different and you might not be able to get her attention with a quick one-liner. Fortunately, there are a lot of great ways you can get a response and get her interest when you say the right thing.
1. Emojis Can Be Lines
This first one is obvious, and it can be several things on bumble. For one, we really like the cheese factor of this particular pickup gem. How does it work? Send a picture of a lemon, followed by a text that says something like “Sorry, I couldn’t find an opening lime.”
You’ll get a laugh, if nothing else, and it’s easy enough that you don’t have to remember anything elaborate. Plus, if she thinks it’s lame, you can course-correct and say you did it ironically.
2. Describe yourself in three emojis.
This is a great way to learn more about her and get to know how she best communicates. Women that can do this quickly tend to use emojis more in their conversations than those who don’t. It’s also a fun way to try to guess what each one means if they’re not obvious.
3. *Consider this a short smile, with a side of *just* awkward enough eye contact.*
You can’t just glance at someone in passing online like you could on the street—and yet sometimes that would be enough to get their attention. In this case, you’re gesturing at what you would be doing in a physical situation, which can be seen as cute and charming in a lot of instances. Besides, bumble also offers a laugh at the awkwardness comment and helps break the ice.
4. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you?
This one is fun. You can even preface it with “Or the most embarrassing thing you’re willing to share” so that you don’t put anyone too far on the spot without their permission. It may also work in your favor to offer your story first. This will give you a chance to be open so that you get it in return, and often makes it easier for people to respond.
5. What are your weekend priorities? Chilling or chores?
This is as much a “getting to know you” question as it is a compatibility question. After all, you’re not going to have any luck in a long-term relationship if you run a tight ship and she prefers to Netflix and chill—with actual chilling. Of course, there’s something to be said for taking the time to relax, so make sure that you’re not getting involved with a workhorse, either.
6. So, where are the pictures from your profile taken?
If the pictures are location-based or seem like they’re from a trip, this could be a great way to start a conversation and get to know someone. You obviously wouldn’t ask where they took that bathroom selfie (or maybe you would), but if they’ve got pictures of famous places, something you don’t recognize, etc., use it to spark a conversation.
7. If there was a soundtrack to your life, what songs would be on it?
This helps you learn more about a person but also gives you an idea of their musical taste based on the songs they reference and the type of music they refer to. Someone that listens to all kinds of music will probably have a little bit of everything on their list, for example.
8. I don’t understand why they call them pickup lines when they cause women to drop like flies… maybe they should call them date repellant.
This is funny in the sense that you’re making fun of pickup lines. It’s not hilarious, but it’s enough to get her engaged. If she’s been doing online dating for long, she’s probably also ready to drop like a fly from the next “pickup line” that she’s given. Even if you’re not an expert with humor, little lines like this can show her that you’re trying and that you aren’t just another guy who’s going to slide in with “what’s up” or something equally boring.
9. I matched because your dog is adorable (and okay, maybe you are too).
Pets are great message bait—and we love them for it. If she has pictures with her dog or cat, or another pet, feel free to use that to break the ice and start a conversation. People love talking about their pets and it will give you a chance to get to know her personality based on the way that she talks about her pet.
Plus, it’s cheeky and playful, letting her know that you’re not too serious here, which is helpful when you’re first getting to know someone.
10. Open with a cheesy joke or one-liner, but make it known you’re going for the groan.
Women love jokes and guys who are admittedly cheesy. If you can come up with a great joke or one-liner to get her giggling, you’ll be much more likely to start a lasting conversation. We all know how awkward and uncomfortable it can be to talk to new people, so make sure that you’re clear about how lame you’re being to get the appropriate reaction. If you try to lead with a joke like this and the sarcasm isn’t clear, she might mistake you for just another dude.
Keep it Simple, But Creative
The bottom line here is that you’ve got to be creative with your words when you’re trying to connect with women on Bumble. There are so many people out there who’ve mastered the art of conversation and you’ll be competing with them for the attention from your matches, so make sure that you do it right. With these tips and suggestions, it should be easy.